You must recognize and understand the many existing ways to get back with your ex before you desperately try doing the impossible, and disastrous, to rescue that valuable relationship.

The following are different ways to get your ex back:

How can you get your ex boyfriend or husband back as stated on ArticleAlley (link):

1. Resist blaming your ex for the break up or distance.
2. Don't just shower him with love to get him back— be gradual but steady.
3. Desperation kills attraction.
4. Don't stalk or bug his friends and family.
5. Analyze what went wrong in the relationship.
6. Bring back the best qualities about you.
7. Jot down in a notepad all the pros and cons of your relationship, and avoid doing them again!
8. Understand this won't be forever.
9. Don't put your life on hold for him.
10. Do some inner improving.

How can you get your ex girlfriend or wife back as stated on AskMen (link):

1. Stay in shape and improve yourself.
2. Don't play games— take it as serious as you can!
3. Don't be jealous but be on the lookout— see how she acts with other guys.
4. Be careful and attentive when she speaks.
5. Don't ever forget birthdays or anniversaries.
6. Don't "frequent" other girls.
7. Reach out every so often in person, phone or e-mail.